I’ve been wanting to write a blog post like this for quite a while now but it never felt like the right time when it actually came down to me typing my feelings and experiences. However, I feel like it’s finally time as I’m at a place in my life where I feel comfortable with who I am for the most part. I’m all about learning to love yourself and be happy with the person you are. I hope my blog and social media brings that across. It’s awesome to have your cheerleaders but ultimately you need to be your biggest one.
So self confidence huh?! I definitely didn’t have any of that never mind body confidence a few years, heck even this time last year. Looking back on it now though, I can see how much I missed out on because I didn’t like myself or who I was. I was always wanting to be something or someone else where as I was me and although past April didn’t see it, she was pretty cool. We’re now seeing an abundance of bloggers, influencers and celebrities preaching about self love, body positivity and gaining self confidence which I think is a great and definitely a step in the right direction. It can put a lot of pressure on people too though as it’s easier said than done.
It’s not something that you’re going to gain over night, it’s always going to be a work in progress and there’s always going to be parts that need more work than others but when you get to a point where you actually find yourself okay or not repulsive, the hard work is done. It’s a long, bumpy, weird and at times challenging journey to take but one that is so worthwhile. It doesn’t really have to begin either, you don’t need to have that moment where you suddenly decide to not hate yourself or learn to love yourself a bit more… It can just happen naturally.
This time last year after quitting a job I was unhappy in, I decided to give blogging a real go and put a lot more time and effort into it. As the months went on I kind of found my niche of flatlays but felt my passion and love for fashion was lacking. I started uploading a few photos here and there of my outfits and therefor full body shots…with the focus being my body and the outfit. I don’t think many people realise that it took me a hell of a lot of convincing to actually upload outfits shots for the first few months. I wasn’t skinny, I wasn’t wearing the latest fashion trends and I didn’t have loads of followers. I’d also gained a lot of weight from stress and medication so definitely wasn’t feeling or looking my best. But I decided it was something I liked doing so I wanted to share it with people, a big passion of mine.
As the months went on, I started feeling a bit more comfortable with posting outfits on my Instagram, my following was growing and the effort/time I was putting into my blog/Instagram was paying off. People started to comment/engage with my posts saying they loved my outfits and how I styled them. I got more confident posing for photos to post of my everyday outfits when I was out and about. We often got into a routine when me and my mum went into town, we had a few spots we would always go to. I started not to care if people were looking at me as I was just wanting to show my outfit off and then get uploading it to Instagram. The more I did this, the more I didn’t care and it was only when looking back at the difference in my expressions and poses that I noticed how much more confident I was not only in posing but in myself. Not being afraid to pose for pictures in public was a real big milestone for me and I know it probably sounds silly to a lot of people but it takes some guts to do it especially if you’re not the most confident person ever. I remember one time, me and my boyfriend were in our town square on a busy Saturday morning and I was adamant I wanted to get a photo on some steps…so I bloody well did and I had so many people staring but I didn’t care. I was so focused on getting that shot and showing off my outfit.
I found myself being a bit more daring with outfits I was wearing, things that I wouldn’t have worn from fear of it not looking ‘flattering’ or suiting my shape. I decided to say fuck it (excuse my french) and wear it regardless because I wanted to and I thought I looked good in it. Throughout this whole process I finally started to find my own style too, something that made me feel comfortable in own skin and made me happy to wear. My sense of style at times in the past had been a bit questionable and I would just follow trends because I lacked any real inspiration and just wanted to look like everyone else. Midi skirts were a big discovery for me and I can’t believe it took me so long to find something that I could just chuck on with a tee and feel like me in. I could wear them with my vans that I felt comfortable in but still feel cool and like I’m expressing myself.
Blogging pushed me to take risks with what I was choosing to wear and through that I found my sense of style and my self confidence. I wasn’t afraid to wear something in the fear it wasn’t meant for my shape or it wouldn’t look as good on me as someone else. I wore it because I wanted to. That’s why I still post outfit photos if not more now because I not only want to show off my outfits to people but I also want people to know it’s okay to wear what you want and to feel comfortable within yourself. There’s only one of you and that’s flipping awesome so own it for all it’s worth.
Through blogging I also found a community of badass girls that are owning their shit and being inspirational to so many others in wearing what THEY want. I’m so happy I live in a world where every body shape is celebrated in some capacity and shown off to be normal because guess what?! IT IS NORMAL TO LOOK NORMAL! They’re feeds and blogs are also great to look at for outfit inspiration if you’re lacking any on some days.
So if you were to take anything from this blog post, let it be that the journey of self confidence hasn’t got a definite start, middle or end…it requires time, love and appreciation of who you are as a person and who you grow to become. Whilst I can say confidentially now that I am much more self confidence/comfortable within myself, I still have days I don’t particularly like myself and that’s okay.
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